RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT'S MANUAL
*MAIDEN SPECIAL FOR YOUNG ADULTS AND YOUTHS (YAYA)*
LESSON THIRTY-FIVE
SUNDAY 1ST MAY 2022
TOPIC: OPPOSITE-SEX FRIENDSHIP
*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*
*1.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
*2.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
*3.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
*4.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee
*5.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I'll be in Sunday School.
*6.* O Sunday School, on the Lord's day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
MEMORY VERSE: "But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and no provision for the flesh, to fulfill it's lusts". -- Romans 13:14
BIBLE PASSAGE: PROVERBS 6:27-28
27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
INTRODUCTION
Christian youth come together for diverse reasons such as academic activities, business/social engagements, spiritual exercises and so on. In the process, making friends with the opposite sex may be inevitable. This is not a sin as long as the motive is pure (friendship with no string attached). However, it becomes an issue of concern when we consider the common mistakes foreseeable. We shall attend to unravel some of the mistakes as well as discuss some of the tips for a pure friendship with the opposite sex.
LESSON OUTLINE
1. COMMON MISTAKES
2. TIPS FOR PURE FRIENDSHIP
COMMON MISTAKES
Here are some of the common mistakes youths make as they relate with their friends of the opposite sex.
1. Ignoring proper boundaries.
2. Misinterpreting the attention of the opposite sex
3. Tolerating too much in the friendship and hanging on too long.
4. Giving a blind eye to danger signals such as emotional attraction, attempt to touching sensitive part of the body, holding hands, cuddling, pecking, and so on (Proverbs 6:20; Romans 12:1)
5. Getting involved much too soon and going too far such as involvement in family functions, financial/business commitments and so on
6. Ignoring sending potential spouse away.
TIPS FOR PURE FRIENDSHIP
1. Define the friendship and set clear boundaries.
2. Never assume anything but ask question when in doubt.
3. Do not allow anyone form a canopy over your life under the pretense of friendship.
4. Do not take advantage of your closeness to your friend to seduce him/her into any dirty game or romantic pleasure (1Thessalonians 5:22; Colossians 2:21).
5. Differentiate friendship from intimacy.
6. Do not always seek to be in lonely places, dark corners, with a friend of the opposite sex.
7. Try and include others in activities instead of isolating yourself with one person
8. Make a priority of same-sex friendship. Your bosom friend should not be of the opposite sex. You can have them as close friends but not as closest friends
9. Seek opportunity to serve and not to be served or entertained. Real friendship is not on what you can get from others but on how to serve others. In service, we find true friendship (Romans 12:10-11)
10. If you are in relationship leading to marriage, make sure your partner meets with your opposite gender friend
11. Guard your heart. Do not allow premature romance ruin your heart, which is the centre of your destiny (Proverbs 4:23)
12. keep everything strictly platonic (surface and plain friendship).
CONCLUSION
Prioritise same-sex friendship. If you must have a friend of the opposite gender, know your boundaries and make sure you talk about them.
QUESTIONS
1. What are the common mistakes some youths make with friend of the opposite sex?
2. Mention at least seven(7) tips for pure friendship among youths of the opposite sex
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